Unearthing your True Needs

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When preparing for a spell, we ask ourselves what do we want to accomplish? What will the theme of this spell and ritual be? But what I realized is that I need to ask myself more often: what needs to happen before I can work this spell?

I’m struggling right now, physically and mentally, with a new chronic illness. What I want is help in accepting this, accepting the reality of my situation and accepting that things will never be the same again, no matter how much improvement I’ll make. So this was the theme I had in my head: acceptance. I’m having trouble accepting, so I will make a spell and ritual to aid in this. Simple, right? Except it didn’t feel right. I realized there were things holding me back from my acceptance, things that a ritual with me chanting “I accept” while focusing on a sigil that I made would not take away. Things that would block that magical work before it even began. So there are things I need to do before I can do the spell that I want to do.

I needed to unearth my true needs. What do I really need to get to a place where I can start working on acceptance? I’m a journaling kinda witch, so I grabbed my journal and started braindumping. No thoughts, just write it out. Start with what I am feeling about the subject and use that as a kickoff point for the rest. For me this often starts with “I feel…” because this gets me to the root of the problem. The things I have to address before I can go on. And through this work I realized that underneath that need for acceptance, there were a lot of other things:

Anger
Grief
Betrayal
A sense of injustice
A need to be understood
Feeling lost
A need for tranquillity, wholeness and calmness
Self-esteem issues
People pleasing
Toxic bonds with certain people
PTSD

I cannot gain acceptance until I deal with these underlying issues. I can make the most beautiful and powerful ritual for acceptance there has ever been, but it will crumble if it doesn’t have the right foundation. Because I looked deeper and tried to unearth my true needs, I have a list of eight magical workings that I need to do before I can do one for acceptance.

So when you are dealing with something big in your life, something you want to do spellwork or other magical workings for, ask yourself: is there something else I need to do first? Is this what I truly need or is there something deeper that needs to be dealt with? Unearth your true needs, then work towards what you want.

3 thoughts on “Unearthing your True Needs

  1. this is fabulous! as is your website….i am by nature dutch/german/english and by adoption irish….my dutch birthmother specified that i go to a catholic home which i did. i have always felt the energies between irish catholicism and the druid/pagan – felt both within me. when i got my DNA done and realized i had no Irish DNA i concluded that my spirit/soul must be celtic.
    today is mother’s day and it ‘occurred’ to me to check out the dutch old religions….yours was the first website i read and there you were connecting dutch, german and celtic….so it seems that regardless of where my dna thread implies me or mine have been over our lives my soul has been celtic…

    and the suggestion of digging deeper makes perfect sense as one gets exactly what one asks for in magic, so asking for what is truly wanted/needed is important. with your suggestion of digging deeper first i feel much more able to return to spell casting…

    Goddess bless!

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment and sharing your journey. Should you wish for some guidance in finding more information about Dutch deities, or simply chat about them, feel free!

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